Quit saying Adam Lanza had Asperger’s. That was not his problem.
There was a child in my kids’ elementary school who reminds me of Adam Lanza. Weird. Occasional outbursts, when not totally absorbed inside himself. Wore strange outfits. Once, his family was in a procession at church and he didn’t like the way his little brother did something–and he slapped the holy hell out of him all the way down the center aisle, to the horror of the congregation. Other kids did not care to be around him, to say the least. Mom was infinitely patient. (He was just incredibly sensitive, you know.) Until he got big enough to really hurt people, and she started taking him to doctors to find out what was wrong. Surely it was an allergy to wheat or something. Finally, a doctor pinned “Asperger’s” on him. No one had heard of this, and there was an assembly to explain to the children that now they should understand his bizarre behavior and tolerate it.
Because now,15 years later, I have known several people actually and professionally diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome. And they aint’ anything like this kid, or Adam Lanza. People with Asperger’s Syndrome are awkward, a little confusing or uncomfortable to talk to in certain situations, perhaps, but they have intelligence and creativity and talents and feelings and empathy, in their own way, (they must be taught social cues, where it comes naturally for non-aspies, I think,) and are REGULAR ACTUAL PEOPLE WITH INDIVIDUAL PERSONALITIES.
Not sociopathic mass-murderers. This is something completely different.
Reports are that the mother stayed home to care for Lanza, home schooling him the last few years of high school because he couldn’t get along.
That’s right. Lanza couldn’t buy the damn things on his own. But his mom not only gave him access to weapons, she taught him how to use them.
I. Am. Without. Speech.
When you are a parent you have to give up a lot of things. The parent of a special needs kid gives up a lot more. And I can’t even imagine what the parent of an unpredictable, mentally ill kid has to give up, but it must be done. It is the responsible path.
You have a mentally ill kid, you don’t keep semi-automatic weapons in the house. I don’t care if you love guns with a passion that knows no bounds, you don’t get to indulge that hobby anymore.
Take up knitting.
Posted on December 15, 2012, in life and tagged Adam Lanza, Asperger, Asperger syndrome, Connecticut, gun laws, gun legislation, guns, Mental Health, parental responsibility, semi-automatic. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.