my treatise on bullying and torture, in which i offend everyone
Posted by Lisha Cauthen
This is the post in which I piss people off.
Lots and lots of talk about bullying these days.
Because there has been a rash of suicides by kids who have been TORTURED by their fellow students into despair.
Please note that I chose to use the word TORTURED.
I’m going to put this out there:
THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BULLYING AND TORTURE.
Bullying: “You smell like cauliflower.”
Torture: “I’m going to beat the crap out of you after school.”
Bullying: “Toad face.”
Torture: “I’m going to rape you with a broom handle.”
See where I’m going here?
We seem to have a movement afoot to equate asshats with psychopaths.
DO NOT LET THIS HAPPEN.
Because then you have school administrators who yawn when parents come in to complain about a seventh grade pervert who pulls their son’s underwear up over his head every day after school in front of the entire junior high doing severe injury to his gonads and causing him to be such an outcast that no one will look him in the face. After all, it’s just a little bullying.
Conversely, perhaps Priscilla Jean and Martha Lou don’t want to play tiddly winks with Yolanda Jane, who happens to cheat. OH MY GOD LET’S WRITE THEM UP AND PUT IT IN THEIR PERMANENT FILES BECAUSE THEY ARE EXCLUDING HER FROM PLAY AND THAT’S BULLYING.
This happens, believe me. Because administrators don’t want to hear parents whining at them.
OH, THEY’RE WHINING, SISTER.
I read a blogpost recently that I will not direct you to because ARGH. The lady posted a large picture of her daughter and invited us to look upon the face of the victim of bullying. Because the popular kids didn’t want to play with her.
Since when does her child have the God-given right to be included in everyone else’s plans, just because she walks upon the Earth?
Her mother called the mothers of the popular kids, saying if their children would just come over and play with her kid, they would like her. The other mothers asked their girls, and they didn’t want to.
She was incensed the mothers didn’t FORCE their daughters to come.
Oh, she got a lot of sympathetic commenters. I would not be one of them, because like it or not, we parents don’t know everything. That kid might be a schemer, a whiner, a stick-in-the-mud, a tattle-tale, a baby, have a terrible temper, or any number of things that parents don’t know. Or she might not. IT DOESN’T MATTER.
Because kids should have the right to choose their friends, as long as they are not dangerous influences. How else are they going to learn about people? They have to fight, break up, make up, learn who true friends are…it’s hell on them and us. But that’s the way it has to be.
And the little girl who’s being excluded? Well, she needs to find other people to be friends with. People who WANT to play with her. Mom is the one chasing the popular kids. If there’s nobody at school to play with, then I guess her mother needs to find after-school activities with other children who don’t have a preconceived notion about her daughter. Yeah, it’s work Mom. That’s the way it goes when you’re raising kids.
If the popular kids tell Yolanda Jane she smells like cauliflower, her mom needs to coach Yolanda Jane to snap her fingers and tell them they smell like dog doo doo, then walk off. Geez. Kids should be taught to withstand that kind of crap without interference from teachers. The Constitution does not guarantee the right to not be offended
But if a kid is threatened with a broom handle, that is TORTURE. And by God, that school better intervene the first time it’s brought to their attention. No more dead kids.
No more excuses.